Member Login
Online Member
None
Blog
Member Submitted Blogs
Thursday, 23 July 2009 08:25
What Does Selfishness Has To Do with Loneliness?
There are more than 6.7 billion people living on this planet right now. The planet has never been this populated. Yet this world have never experience so much loneliness like we do today.The more the people there are the less we are supposed to be alone. But many of us are alone. And worse is many of us are lonely.So what happened with the saying “The more the merrier?”I believe that the cause of this plague of loneliness is our very own selfishness. We have solely focused everything towards ourselves and forgotten others.We have chosen to disconnect ourselves to the rest of humanity when we placed ourselves as the center of the universe, the place of God.Each one of us was made for love. We long to love and be loved. To be denied of love, is to be denied of one of our most basic need. The state or feeling of being unloved is what we often call loneliness. Loneliness is one of the worst poverty one can experience.Because of our selfishness we have forgotten what real love is. We have focused are actions on taking than on sharing. We have a world full of Go-Getters and hoarders. Because of our mentality of getting we forgot to give. Now everyone feels deprived and empty because no one is giving. Unconditional love is scarce these days.It is funny because our own greed has made us poor. We fill ourselves with worldly stuffs but feel empty in the inside. We jump from one party to the next only to go home feeling so more lonely the before. We pursued to get everything we want, only to realize that it does not cure our emptiness.I believe to solution to loneliness is love. We must learn give ourselves to be filled. St. Francis of Assisi said, “It is in giving that we receive.”The world needs the Go-Givers to make this lonely planet less lonely.
Last modified on Wednesday, 23 September 2009 09:54
Category:
Member Submitted Blogs
Thursday, 23 July 2009 08:13
In What Kind of a Relationship Are You In? Give and Take or Give and Give?
We often hear that to be in a good relationship there has to be a “give and take” within the partners. But I think sometimes the “give and take” mentality can get old quick, because it has a tendency to be selfish. I give so I can take. Their giving becomes an indirect egotism.St Thomas Aquinas defines love as to will the good of the other as other. There is no hidden agenda in real love. You love the person for the sake of the person and not because you can get something out of the person.A real loving relationship practices “give and give.” There is no need for taking because the longings are being given by the partner even before the other asks for it. Two persons who are deeply in love are focused on their beloved and not on themselves. They want to make their beloved happy. He puts her before himself every time in every thing. And she does the same.Both are satisfied and fulfilled.Both feel loved.Most of us when we are considering entering into a relationship with someone ask this question, “What can I get from this person?” Another way of putting it is “What can this person give me?”I think we should have a radical change of attitude if we want to experience real and lasting love. We must change the question “What can I get” to “What can I give to this person?”The best example of this love is Jesus on the Cross. When Jesus let Himself get crucified, it was solely for you and me. There was no hidden agenda on Jesus’ suffering except our salvation. It was a totally selfless act. Jesus died because He loved you and me. PERIOD.So if we want to have a beautiful relationship, we must learn to love like Jesus. Our love has to be totally unselfish and self-giving.There is no greater love than to give one’s life for a friend.
Category:
Member Submitted Blogs